Seriously,

• How do you know he/she is the One

• with whom you can have
  • a long lasting, mutually fulfilling, and happy relationship?

Physical Attraction:  What you ‘see’ in the other person says

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• ‘Go ahead, he/she is the one!’
• This means that their
  • looks, fashion sense,
  • body type, posture and manner of walking
    • showing self- confidence, humility, focus, …;
  • attitude and presence,
  • voice and manner of speaking, etc.,
    • will meet your individual threshold/preference
      • for physical attraction,
      • throughout the relationship.
• Ignoring this is why I believe that
  • (the TV show)
  • ‘Married at First Sight’ does not appear to work well
    • especially without the necessary cultural history and
    • without a network of supportive and influential family dynamics
      • to support it.
• Western Culture emphasize/glamorize this far too much
  • when there other equally
    • or more important factors
      • to consider.

Shared Core Values and Approach to Life

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• You observe that you share similar views about
• the most basic things you believe about life:
  • God, faith, and prayers,
  • money, life and death, family,
  • friends, science, the law, culture,
• all say ‘Go ahead, he/she is the one!’

‘BEHIND THE SCENES‘ Real Life Experience(s) say,

• ‘Yes, Go ahead, he/she is the one!’
• ‘Behind the scenes’ experience concerning
  • earning and spending money,
  • interactions with siblings, parents, relatives,
  • co-workers, bosses, detractors and opponents,
    • (how he/she treats them is how he/she will treat you eventually);
  • leisure and entertainment activities,
  • loss, illness, heartaches, and outstanding joys,
    • all say ‘Go ahead’, he/she is the one!
• However remember
  • people can and do change.

Sound Logic and Reasoning Confirms it!

• Please see my last post
• Use Your head to guard your heart
• Your heart can guide you
  • but not against objective facts and logic.
• Remember, you are committing yourself to
  • seek that person’s happiness without precondition
    • in the hope that they will do the same for you.

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• Warren Buffet: 
  • “Buy a stock the way you would buy a house. Understand and like it such that you’d be content to own it in the absence of any market.”
  • Me :  “Enter a long term relationship the way you would buy a house. Understand and like it such that you’d be content to own it in the absence of making any profit off it.”
• Why have a brain if you do not use it to make important decisions in life?
• If sound logic and reasoning say “Go ahead, he/she is the one” then
  • do it, He/She is the one.

What about ‘chemistry,’ ‘instinct,’ ‘live in the moment’ or ‘take a risk’?

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• ‘Chemistry‘ is mutual physical attraction and a shared approach to life,
  • (see above), unfortunately,
  • will not be enough for the long haul.
• ‘Instinct’?
  • You would not invest in the stock market solely by instinct;
    • you need additional information to inform your ‘instinct’;
    • why then would you invest your life based solely on instinct?
• ‘Live in the moment’?
  • Only if you have only one moment to live.
• ‘Take a risk?’
  • Would you jump out of an airplane
    • without a parachute and/or
    • without being reasonably sure it works?

We can do this; Let’s do this!!

Note:  I apologies for the gap between the last post and this, Apologies for the gap between the last  post and this.  My excuse? Life Happened (Work, car crashes in the family, etc.).  Email me your questions at reach4himwdray@gmail.com