Finding Love is like Finding Nemo – For Guys

• It’s like looking for lost treasure
• It’s like hunting prey
  • (excuse the non-pc expression!)
  • You need all the information you can get

    

    • Maps, last known location, last known contacts
    • What does it involve, how will you know that you have found it?
    • A Profile of the ‘ideal mate’
      • Then construct a very wide confidence interval
        • (margin of error)
    • Where ‘she’ hangs out (likely to be found)
    • What SHE is looking for.

      • Be that person!!!

  • You need hunting/investigative Skills
    • Investigative skills:

      

      • See above.
    • ‘Hunting’ skills,
      • Be authentic:
        • can’t hide the real you forever;
        • character like toothpaste
          • will come out under pressure.
      • Start and hold interesting conversations,
        • focus on the other person,
        • about common interests,
        • not just about yourself!!
        • laugh at yourself!
      • personal grooming
  • You have the right kind of preparation/tools
    • You take care of business:
      • You earn a living.
      • You speak up, out.
      • You get it!
        

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        • Life, love, and relationships are wonderful, satisfying, rewarding, fulfilling, the best, ‘can’t do without it’, great!
        • Life, love and relationships are hard, difficult, unpredictable, messy, risky.
          • All at once!
        • Life, love, and relationships are worth it!
    • You are not perfect
      

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      • (not a god either!)
      • You have your own imperfections
        • skeletons/weaknesses/failures/pet peeves
        • So accept hers!
  • You are willing to work
    • Put in some sweat equity
    • “Nothing in the world is worth having
      • or worth doing
      • unless it means effort, pain, and difficulty…”
        • Theodore Roosevelt 
  • You are willing to take a risk
    • Be personally invested,
      • money,
      • time
      • effort

        

    • Take the next step
    • Jump off the plane and trust that
      • your training and preparation and that
      • the parachute will open!
    • “A ship in the harbor is safe,
      • but that is not ships are built for”!
        • John A. Shedd
    • Risk rejection!

HAPPY FINDING (HUNTING!!!!) – YOU CAN DO THIS – LET’S DO THIS!